Growth

Transform your stresses into strengths through

  • Hypnosis
  • Relaxation
  • Visualization
  • Stress management
  • Meditation instruction
  • Clarification of life goals
  • Creativity enhancement
  • Mind/body awareness
  • Emotional release
  • Self soothing
  • Mindfulness

Develop a sense of calm and self efficacy as you find a clearer connection to your inner strengths. Through a personal growth process you gain confidence in using your capacities to handle daily challenges and stresses. Your spontaneous joy in everyday living evolves from this inner journey and can bring you to a place of ease and grace, and to a strength of character that contributes to resilience in the face of change.

The development of resilience and recovery after difficult challenges in life, after grief, loss, or transitions involves understanding the difference between:

  1. the acceptance and rejection of thoughts and feelings
  2. living with awareness and living on auto pilot
  3. approaching life’s challenges and avoiding them.

The human system is built to recover physically, emotionally and cognitively from difficult and painful experiences. A willingness to begin or engage in a process of growth is the first step in recovering. The process of change begins with a decision to do so.

Asking the right question or challenging the habit patterns of old behaviors promotes awareness and the growth process. Doing something differently than you have done before, disengaging from ineffective behaviors, asking yourself “is this behavior working for me?”,  will all help to propel you in a new direction.

A well crafted intention based on your personal values creates movement and direction in your life.  A clear direction assists you in getting back on track after losing your way through the distractions of pain or pleasure.  A clear intention, acting as a light in the darkness, keeps you moving forward even when pulled towards stagnation, feeling overwhelmed or discouraged. The outcome of taking a new direction is contentment, increased vitality, resting in a place of joy and happiness.  From this place it is possible to make decisions with clarity, focus and ease.

New behavior patterns can be learned and developed with practice. One can choose new patterns and focus on learning the skills needed to use them effectively. Some new skills take more time than others to integrate.

Should I try to control or accept?  This is an often an unclear and confusing question .  Evaluating situations and events in your life with clarity about whether to intervene and act on the external or to accept the internal and focus on a change in attitude is crucial to honing a productive response. Understanding that true acceptance is an active process that involves adopting a non judgmental attitude or stance in a situation. A change of view or attitude can be a productive alternative when problem solving is not an option.

IMG_8252Instead of rejecting or pushing away feelings, thoughts, or memories, one can learn to develop a stance of acceptance and go through whatever comes up. With this attitude, one can access an internal anchor, ground into something deeper and more solid in you. Anchored in this place and knowing that you can face what comes up in life, allows one to do one’s best you and process internal emotional reactions as they occur.  This is a strong place to stand when things appear to be falling apart, changing rapidly or feel overwhelming.

One can learn to become a strong source of self support and compassion through challenging times. More positive mental habits in the face of stress are crucial to maintaining confidence in oneself, others and life. Our attitudes and how we perceive the world, others and ourselves either contribute to anguish and depression or to resilience and happiness.

Toxic patterns of thought include:

* perfectionism

* comparisons

* disregarding experience

* other criticism

* self criticism

* shoulds

* talking oneself out of taking risks that could be helpful

* pessimism

* worry

More positive patterns of responding to challenges include:

*acceptance

* orienting the thoughts towards experiencing rather than analyzing

* enjoying what is happening

* saying yes to current circumstances and emotional responses, *being satisfied with the progress being made in personal endeavors

*self compassion

* encouraging the self to risk positive possibilities

* kindness to the self when overwhelmed or struggling with a sense of failure

* comforting and reassuring yourself when experiencing painful emotions

* viewing yourself as part of the whole rather than separate from humanity

*non judgmental self perceptions about thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

In a caring environment, I facilitate your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual healing. In this process you are able to reconnect with yourself and with others while improving the quality of your life. Rediscover your healing abilities as we work together to develop ways to harmonize the elements of your life.   Feel empowered in your work, career, relationships and during  transitions.

IMG_8018Develop curiosity about what is happening in your feelings, body, thoughts, and behaviors. Through this window into yourself you can work, align, and reconnect to the implicit self. Become the source of safety, love, and validation for yourself freeing you from the traps of people pleasing or defensiveness. Learn to set boundaries in a way that creates the safety to allow people into your life.

Align with and live your dreams while you heal yourself and others in the process.  I specialize in personal development, creativity, spirituality and goals and will support you in becoming the best you can be.

“Work like you don’t need the money, love like you’ve never been hurt, and dance like no one is watching.” ~ Satchel Paige

With clarity, compassion, and creativity, I work with you to rediscover your true self and live by your higher purpose.

Request an appointment for help with personal growth HERE

pamela polcyn

“On the mountains of truth you can never climb in vain: either you will reach a point higher up today, or you will be training your powers so that you will be able to climb higher tomorrow.” -Friedrich Nietzsche